Our inner health is affected by the situations that happened and are happening in our lives. So all the stressful and traumatic events that we experience in our lives leave us with emotions that we can’t control, and with time it piles up to make us vulnerable and unresilient creating what is known as traumatic memories. Our brains build a fixed response to these memories or anything that triggers them. For example, let’s say that you got bitten by a dog and you had vulnerable emotions, you perceive that to be threatening to your life, the next time you see a dog or even a shadow that looks like a dog or hear a dog barking or anything that reminds you of that initial event the trigger gets fired off and you’ll have the same emotional response that say; fear and panic.
What Is Havening Therapy?
Havening is a psychological way that alters brain chemistry to be able to biologically change the way that our memories have been stored. It can change your brainwave state so that you can actually disconnect the emotions that are stuck in your brain related to certain traumatic and stressful events.
Also, it has multiple uses as it creates a calm state and creates chemical changes that enable its use in depression, anxiety, fears and panic. As well as being used over the long term to get the amygdala over time to literally stand down and stop detecting threat, which is what is going on in anxiety. In addition to strengthening beliefs and brain resilience, creating a sense of hope and optimism, developing outcomes.
How does It work?
First, identify the stressful event. Then, identify your emotions attached to that event (you can even write this down). Then, create an affirmation that will help disconnect your emotions from the challenging situation, such as, “I am calm, I am at peace, I am safe,” “I am open to being compassionate,” “I am hopeful,” “I open my heart to friendship,” or “I open my mind to learning.” Then find a quiet, out-of-the-way space, sitting or standing, and close your eyes. Next, bend your arms at the elbows and cross them in front of you. Resting the palm of each hand on the opposing shoulder, gently stroke your arm, starting at your shoulder down to your elbow. When you have reached your elbow, raise your hands back to your shoulders and repeat this stroking motion, all the while repeating to yourself or out loud your affirmation or mantra. Do this for five to seven minutes.
Now open your eyes, take a few deep breaths and you’ll notice that you don’t have an emotional response to the stressful event, and no emotional response means that the memory isn’t traumatic anymore, it is only a memory.
This sensory relaxation technique relieves a tremendous amount of life stressors, such as learning disabilities, depression associated with traumatic events, autism, insomnia, high blood pressure, and auditory hypersensitivity.
Always remember your values, strengths, and skills. In doing this technique, you will remember the kind of person that you want to be and how you choose to respond to current challenges or stressful traumatic memories.