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5 Guidelines To Regaining Control Over Your Life

Control Over Your Life

When I wrote this article, I was in the process of studying with the International Institution for Integrative Nutrition “IIN” on my journey to becoming a Health & Wellness Coach.

Whenever I’m studying or reading about health, I can’t stop thinking to myself that we are always changing! We are always making choices that are altering and shifting our course in life, either to the better or to the worse.


Our life is the choices we make and the habits we decide to start or stop practicing.


If I look at my life six years ago, I wouldn’t recognize a lot of things about myself. I used to suffer from a huge condition of ‘helplessness’! That’s what I like to call it. A stage in my life where I believed that I am helpless and that I have zero control over my life situations. I played all the games you can imagine, the blame game, the complaint game and the victim game.


Control Over Your Life


I took very little responsibility for changing my life in the way I wanted it to be changed.

But behind all of this, I always knew I was strong. I always believed that I had more in me; more commitment, more resilience, and definitely more power. And that is when I decided to take control over my own life and start my continuing journey of self-realization.

I would love to share with you the main steps to regaining control over your own life and starting your own journey of coming home to yourself:


1 || Work on your self-image:

Control Over Your Life


How you see yourself is the first step to changing yourself. The fact that I saw myself as a strong, confident, and empowered individual made me want to change the state of helplessness I was in. I had deep faith that this should be altered and that most importantly it can!

Ask yourself the important questions:

  • Who am I?
  • Who do I want to become?
  • Is the person I am being every day empowering or disempowering me?
  • What would I like to change about myself? And how can I make this change happen?
  • How can I be more accepting and loving of who I am?
  • How do I want to be remembered?
  • What are my top values in life?
  • Where am I putting my focus and attention?
  • What do I mostly need from myself at this point in my life?

Don’t be scared to pause and ask yourself the important questions. Even if you don’t get the answers right away, simply by asking these questions you have opened the door of possibilities to explore who you can be.


2 || Grow emotional independence:

Control Over Your Life


Through your journey of self-growth, you have to build a state of emotional independence. You are where “you” are, this is your journey and your opinion about it is what matters the most.

What feels good to you, is what’s good for you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

  • Set your own boundaries; what do you want to say yes to and what do you want to say no to?
  • Choose carefully who you share your experiences and thoughts with.
  • Surround yourself with people who see your greatness and are happy to see you live it and be it.
  • Have a daily ritual to protect your energy; meditate, journal, do yoga, go for a walk, dance, etc.


3 || Be willing to release the idea of who you think you are:

Control Over Your Life


Your ego has been controlling your life for the past god knows how many years! During your journey to re-discover yourself, you will have to come to the understanding that you are not who you thought or still think you are.

I always recite during my meditations ‘I am nothing and I am everything’. Let go of all labels you put on yourself and start fresh, go back to being a student and keep an open heart to learn and discover new things about yourself:

  • What you like or dislike
  • Personality traits you would like to grow
  • New habits you want to add to your life

Be open and start fresh!


4 || Have the courage to let go:

Control Over Your Life


During this journey, you will let go of a lot of beliefs. Beliefs you took on externally or internally. Externally from society, traditions, family or religion. And internally through the inner conversations you repeat to yourself over and over again.

Be willing to let go of those beliefs, build new ones and give yourself the freedom to regain some of them back, only and only if you decide that they serve you well. Here is how you can do this:

  • Write down what beliefs you took from you family, society, teachers, traditions, etc.
  • Identify which of these beliefs are positive and which are negative.
  • For every belief that disempowers you, write down a new opposite belief that helps your grow.
  • Repeat your new-found beliefs to yourself on daily basis to reprogram your past conditioning and consciously create your own way of being.


5 || Make it your mission:

Control Over Your Life


You are the most important project you will ever work on. Invest in yourself and let your journey of self-growth be a commitment and a continuous promise that you make to yourself.

  • Feed your body the right foods; fruits, vegetables, minerals, supplements, seeds, etc.
  • Feed your mind the right foods; books, conversations, videos, etc.
  • Study and keep learning new things.
  • Do things that scare you but also expand your limits.
  • Trust in your heart and your intuition and let your feelings be your compass.

I am now still a student and a beginner, I am looking forward to what life will bring next, to what I will learn next and to what and how I will change next.

Repeat after me:

I promise myself to never stop working on myself and to always be true to my heart’s desires.

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your actions.”

– Dalai Lama

Peace & Love,



Hi! My Name is Sara Abiqwa and I am a Self-Empowerment & Wellness Coach and a Yoga Teacher. My journey of change started with a conscious decision to question my beliefs, to give myself my utmost attention, to love myself fully and to grow mind, body, and spirit. That’s why my mission is to help as many people as possible to do the same!


As a graduate of The Institution For Integrative Nutrition ‘IIN’ in New York and Inner Yoga School in Bali, I now work with a lot of women individually and in group settings to help guide them back to their own magic and inner power to consciously create a life of their own desire.


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