Please don’t judge me or my marriage for that matter, but I have to admit that I’m not such a big fan of Valentine’s day. I don’t know why but it strikes me as the corniest celebration of all, no offence everyone! With it’s abundance of red roses, chocolates, and red stuffed teddy bears it has become such an overused cliched concept with no romanticism whatsoever. Which brings me to my point! How can we bring the romantic back to Valentine’s Day? How can we come up with gift ideas that are personalised and that come directly from the heart? I hope the below ideas can help you think out of the box this time around?
1 || Create A Couples’ Vision Board
I’m a sucker for anything that involves scissors and glues, or any kind of stationery for that matter, and thankfully so is my husband. A vision board can help you bond together and can also help you both identity what your relationship needs going forward. You will need cardboard paper, scissors, glues, and magazines. You are both required to find any images, phrases, and words that you resonate with, but do this separately. The images, words, and phrases can be about what you want and do not want for your relationship. Work on your collage together and talk your way through it. Talk about the process, the feelings and memories it triggers, and about how the final result makes you feel. You can also create one with the whole family.
2 || Scrapbook Of Memories
Create a scrapbook of memories by doing a timeline of your relationship by collecting photos, postcards, movie or concert tickets, hospital mementos, restaurant receipts, or anything that holds a special a memory for the both of you.
3 || A Self-Care Box
This is basically a gift hamper disguised as self-care. You can drop in anything that your significant other might value and appreciate. You do not have to go all out, you can easily include a beautiful card, a book by his favourite author, a family photo, his favourite aftershave or perfume, dark chocolates, scented candles, a lovely notebook, coloured pencils, anything that could take his fancy can be added.
4 || Post-Its Trail Of Reminders
Leave little notes everywhere, could be inside his briefcase, lunchbox, in the car, at the office if you can manage it. Just leave a trail of warm-hearted messages to remind each other of the reasons you both fell in love, or a trail of memories that you both would look back on with love.
5 || Start A Gratitude Journal Of A Different Kind
Work on your relationship by gifting each other gratitude journals albeit in a slightly different context. Let these gratitude journals be about you both. Each day you are both prompted to write something you appreciate in the other until you fill out the pages. Switch the journals when they come to an end and enjoy the little surprises that lurk inside these pages.
6 || Invest In His Hobby
Say your partner has recently gotten into cycling, hunting, or meditation like mine did! Let your gift be this wordless support of this hobby or new habit of his, by investing in items that would help him better practice and enjoy his new venture.
7 || Create A Love Jar
Write all the reasons you fell in love with that person on little scraps of paper and drop them into a jar of (wrapped) cookies or chocolates or on their own. Let him savour the sweetness of these messages on his own time.
8 || Start Something New Together
It’s very healthy for couples to start something new together to ward off the predictably that seeps into the relationships as we grow older. Sign yourselves up for a new exercise class, pottery class, or anything that is slightly out of your comfort zone. Don’t worry if it’s not something sustainable; just the rush of trying something new is enough to inject your relationship with renewed energy.